I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: Get to know people for yourselves.
A lot of potentially good—or even GREAT—personal and working relationships are often forfeited because you listened to, and adopted the opinion and constant rhetoric of someone, who you now realize, has been the problem all along.
“But so-and-so said…Why would they lie?”
Why, indeed?
Did it ever occur to you that so-and-so—as much as you like, think you know, or trust him or her—might be the messy one; feeding you false narratives about people they have issues with, or aught against?
Ever wonder why you sheepishly accept it? (That’s the real question you should answer.)
Is it just too difficult to believe that someone close to you is the actual villain?
Is it possible that so-and-so knows what truths might be revealed if you ever, EEEEHH-VAH find yourself in the company of, or in conversation with the person they’ve bashed, or may have even forbidden you to associate with?
Is THAT why they work so hard to keep you separated from, and harboring ill will against the innocent people they’ve screwed over?
Reason for yourselves, and then endeavor to not just think, but KNOW for yourselves. There are a myriad of reasons why people will lie or exaggerate about, badmouth, criticize, and warn you about others. Among them is, the truth isn’t on their side.
Some people may never seek to defend themselves, or expose others. They may never tell their side of a matter, preferring to just let time and providence handle things, but WHOLE stories are the BEST stories.
Although you may be disappointed, pained, or surprised to discover who the antagonist is—or that you’ve been fooled—it’s best to know.
Don’t find yourselves walking around with estimations of people that aren’t the least bit accurate, honest, or fair. What you “heard” may not be what IS, and just because you say “allegedly” doesn’t absolve you of being a talebearer.
It’s hard to get a lie back into the bottle once it’s poured out.
If you’re going to be mad at, or dismissive of someone, at least let it be because of your OWN experience.
Stop picking up crosses forged by manipulation. Stop being a follower, and hopping on bandwagons. Stop mistreating, misjudging, dragging, and side-eyeing people you don’t even know, or have never even had a conversation with.
Information based on someone else’s biases, secrets, indiscretion, anger, insecurity, jealousy, fear, guilt, or second-hand gossip will have you throwing shade at, avoiding, and writing off people who could bring positivity to your life.
Get to know people for YOURSELVES.
If you have to pick a side, let it be the righteous one. Examine whether there’s a payoff for remaining on the wrong side of an issue, and how it erodes your integrity.
Every relationship, association, or alliance is NOT a blessed one. It’s not worth being in the good graces or inner circle of ANYONE, if it means you have to abandon your autonomy, disable your brain, and mistreat, disrespect, or help ruin the personal or professional reputations of others. That’s not favor. That’s opportunistic evil…and what goes around, comes around like a rabid dog.
I don’t know WHY people think they can just belittle and mistreat others and there be no consequences. I’m no sage, and although I’m from Louisiana, I’m not spooky, but I have seen God work.
Watch your mouth.
Examine your motives.
Don't get comfortable in mess, no matter how hard you schemed and worked to attain the position you think you deserved, or earned.
Don’t think more highly of yourself, or your sphere of influence than you should. This world is gigantic, and there are a whole lotta folks who have no idea who you are, and are neither afraid of, beholden to, nor intimidated by you.
If you’re a believer, care more about what God sees and hears. HE’s the maker and breaker.
Be careful how you treat good people. What’s for them will find them, in spite of every scheme to deny them.
What’s for evil folks, will find them, too.
It might glitter to fool the public, but if it was built on lies, deceit, and the mishandling and destruction of others, it ain’t gold.
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