Winding down.
I got a phone call from one of my late mother's dearest friends. Just hearing her voice made me cry. The call couldn't have come at a better time. "Your mama wasn't as passive as you think. She used to be quiet and take a lot when she was younger, but she grew up. She was strong. She said what she needed to say, and that was the end of it. You gotta do that too."
Not running from confrontation is new...and refreshing. Sometimes you're asked to engage in conversation when what is intended is a lecture, criticism, or an attack. Sometimes you're asked what you think when what people really want is consent. If you can't give it, don't. If you don't agree, it doesn't keep peace (at least not inside of you) to say that you do. Going along to get along doesn't work. The issue will only raise itself at a later date, and having to repeat your stance when you've already made yourself clear, makes you wonder how seriously you're taken; how much you're respected. Taking a stand isn't necessarily brave, or bold, but it's healthy. Having the last word is sweet when truth is on your side. Keep telling it.
Keep standing.
I got a phone call from one of my late mother's dearest friends. Just hearing her voice made me cry. The call couldn't have come at a better time. "Your mama wasn't as passive as you think. She used to be quiet and take a lot when she was younger, but she grew up. She was strong. She said what she needed to say, and that was the end of it. You gotta do that too."
Not running from confrontation is new...and refreshing. Sometimes you're asked to engage in conversation when what is intended is a lecture, criticism, or an attack. Sometimes you're asked what you think when what people really want is consent. If you can't give it, don't. If you don't agree, it doesn't keep peace (at least not inside of you) to say that you do. Going along to get along doesn't work. The issue will only raise itself at a later date, and having to repeat your stance when you've already made yourself clear, makes you wonder how seriously you're taken; how much you're respected. Taking a stand isn't necessarily brave, or bold, but it's healthy. Having the last word is sweet when truth is on your side. Keep telling it.
Keep standing.
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