Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Face it. There will ALWAYS be someone who can do what you do--and do it much better. You may not have met them yet, but should you encounter such a person, rebuke the spirit of foolishness and anxiety that will cause you to puff up, lose your manners, and act childish or rude. Instead of immediately considering another person as a competitor or a threat to your position, livelihood, and existence, try to remember that there is a thinking, feeling, human being behind an individual's talent--a human being who doesn't deserve to be treated like crap just because they happen to enter into your arena. It is a mistake to assume that you have any area of this life on lock down. Die, and see what happens.
Cattiness is not attractive. Jealousy is poisonous. Insecurity is a disruptive, divisive spirit whose mission is to make others feel inadequate or inferior, while making you appear small-minded, petty and desperate. Don't ever botch an opportunity to genuinely applaud someone else---or make a new friend---because you have overestimated your own grandeur and believed the hype about your own ability--ability you can neither demonstrate nor sustain without the help of God.
If you make a bargain, honor your end of it. If you choose not to, don't be offended if people become leery of doing business with you. After a while the only thing they will understand is that you are shady, and they'll remember it no matter how sweet the next deal may seem to be. Perhaps the patient become expert at waiting, and the squeaky wheel does gets the oil, but don't think that you have to get litigious, loud, act a pure fool, or be an insanity- inducing pest to get folks to honor their word. Sometimes it may not seem like it, or feel like it as you wait for what should already be in your hands (or checking account), but integrity is still alive and well.
Been taken advantage of? Your kindness viewed as gullibility or desperation? Tired of the condescending tones and patronizing behavior of people who seem to forget that you were minding your business and THEY came looking for YOU? Determine that all mistreatment ends today...and you don't even have to be mean about it. Stop considering shoddy treatment as a favor. Stop thanking those who misuse you, your time, and effort. Remember that nothing is worth you losing your self-respect. Don't make excuses for the inconsideration of others. They know what they do--and unfortunately have a pass to continue because you have allowed it.
Stand up for yourself. It doesn't require arrogance, profanity, or a nasty attitude---only truth.
No. You haven't changed. You've just peeped some people's MO...finally...and they won't want to deal with the less gullible version of you...and that's just fine. For once in your life you won't be wasting time, effort, and resources on users, cons, and crooks.