REMEMBERING MALINDA SAPP

Each time I had the privilege to work with Marvin Sapp at Evangel Cathedral, I was always impressed by the way he spoke so highly of his wife and family. If only all men could refer to their spouses in such a loving and respectful manner! It was clear. Family was key. His role as husband and father wasn't just an incidental part of his life. He seemed to be striving to demonstrate how things could, and should be done. He was extremely proud of his wife and held her in such high esteem. He trusted her. He often remarked about how well she handled his business affairs, and how impressive she was in her own right. He said they met in elementary school. I think it's so lovely when long-time friends marry.

When I finally met her, she was as poised, gracious, beautiful and intelligent as he'd said. It's so nice to see a couple who not only loved one another, but liked and celebrated each other, too. The happiness radiated. He wanted others to experience it as well. It was obvious. He relished being married. I remember him telling my friend Sharon Orr and me that we needed to move to Michigan. "I'll have you both married in 6 months", he laughed. 

How my heart sank when I heard that MaLinda Sapp had colon cancer--the same cancer that plagued my Mom. When I read the messages reporting Lady Sapp's death, I was hoping they were just more premature, tactless rumors. Unfortunately, they were true. There had been so many prayers, said on her behalf; such hope for so many days.

There still is great hope, even though things don't always make sense, or turn out the way we'd like.
Sometimes things just don't seem fair. Why a loving wife and mother? Why such heartache? Why so young? Why at this point in their lives?
I imagine that God knows we have questions, and he understands. He doesn't miss a thing, and is never blindsided by anything--good or bad. He's faithful and trustworthy. He hasn't let us down as of yet. The best thing to do is to continue trusting Him. He sees us for who we are.
I sure don't know how anyone gets along in this life without God. I'm glad that Marvin is a friend of His. 

I pray that Marvin, Marvin II, Madisson, Mikaila and the Lighthouse Church family are comforted.
Death is no stranger, but sometimes it's tough to know what to say or do--other than pray, and thank God for the privilege of encountering, admiring, learning from, and being encouraged and blessed by remarkable individuals.

A memorial fund has been established to support the Grand Rapids Ellington Academy of Arts and Technology in honor of Lady MaLinda Sapp. Contributions can be forwarded c/o Mercantile Bank of Michigan, 4860 Broadmore Avenue, S.E., Grand Rapids, Michigan 49512