CAREGIVER DIARIES: THOUGHTS

1. My appreciation for those who do help has to be greater than my disappointment about those who don't.

2. Sometimes you have to lower your expectations...or not have expectations at all. Let people surprise you.

3. When inconsideration and thoughtlessness has been allowed, it will continue. Although people may expect you to tolerate what they never would, it doesn't mean you have to.

4. What some people considered a great help, or a significant contribution, actually created extra work and unnecessary expense for someone else. They'll never acknowledge it. Sometimes, you have to be specific about what is needed.

5. People you don't trust cannot comfort or support you. That doesn't mean there's nothing they can do in the situation. Let them.

6. When people don't care about you, don't expect them to care how their actions impact you. How you respond, however, matters. Maintain your peace.

7. Sometimes confrontation is your best option.

8. Preserve your peace and space. Boundaries matter.

9. Continue your routine, regardless. Always have an exit strategy. You need rest. Get it.

10. Actions will determine purpose and intention. What people say they're going to do, and what they actually do, helps you to know what you must continue to do, or whether you can relax and take a break.

11. The gravity of a situation will never be felt by someone who is detached from it. Do the right thing first, explain later.

12. There is always something that can be done. Unfortunately, too many people believe that something is nothing. Don't become preoccupied with that. Remember the team of willing, consistent workers.

13. The value of  "Is there anything I can do?” is priceless.

14. Don't expect people who don't know you, to know what is important to you.

15. Love and respect yourself more than others disregard and hate you.

16. Remember the principal thing, and stay hopeful and vigilant.

17. Once you recognize the distractions for what they are, you'll never be blindsided again.

18. Meditate on what will consistently strengthen and encourage you.

19. Smile more. It does something for your insides.

20. Never abandon the company of, or conversations with true, good friends.

21. Appreciate thoughtfulness and random acts of kindness.

22. A good and timely word is a good and timely word--no matter who offers it.

23. The things and people you love and like, are still there. Reach out. Be inspired.

24. Look back. God has never failed you.

25. Music is a powerful catalyst. Use it.