I overheard someone saying they had some problems. No pain. No infirmity. Just problems. The way they were lamenting made me wonder if they know their own life and the status of their own affairs. I imagine the person who was calling, to ask them for financial help, couldn't believe it either. Just whose life are they looking at? From my vantage point, and from the vantage point of many, they should be THE most thankful, deliriously happy, generous, head-up-hands-to-the-sky, grateful people on the entire planet. Hearing them complain so passionately and dramatically, frankly, ticked me off. Ingratitude usually does.
If they want or need something, they can get it--easily. They have access to the best of things if they so desire. There are people at their beck and call. Problems? Yeah. Right. If THEY have problems, there's clearly no hope for the rest of us. We should all want their problems.
I was moved to stop shaking my head and judging them for their blatant ungratefulness, (and delusion) and look up the word "problem".
"Problem--any question or matter involving doubt, uncertainty, or difficulty; a question proposed for solution or discussion; difficult to train or guide; unruly; dealing with choices of action difficult either for an individual or for society at large."
Yep. They DO have a problem, I guess. Lots of them. Their problems aren't unique. They aren't any different than anyone else's. They've said and done things that have left them questioning and regretting their own impure motives. They've made unhealthy choices and have entertained bad habits. They've believed they were hurting someone else, or teaching someone else a lesson, and ended up hurting themselves. They've mistreated others. They failed to act when they should have. They've been arrogant and unkind. They've been selfish. They've been unfair. They've been envious. They've skewed their priorities. They've given expecting something in return. They've been hypocritical. They've enjoyed gossip. They've been unmerciful. They've been abusive. They've slandered others. They've used others. They've forfeited opportunities to excel. They've sabotaged opportunities they did have. They've kept secrets that have left them bearing internal shame. They're angry with themselves, and the only action they've embraced is to lash out at undeserving others. They demand attention. They criticize what they do not understand. They seek to break the spirits of those who are happy. They thrive on strife. They are not loyal to anyone. They hate being wrong, and losing. Those who are right or who win must be retaliated against. They don't trust the people who are genuine, but embrace those who are shady. They are extremely bigoted. They have no filter that deters them from saying hurtful, and even ignorant things. They want other to be beholden to them. They believe that the giving material things should ensure love, consent, and respect. They're lonely because they're adept at alienating people.
They're really not that different than anyone else. Everyone has had problems with self. The main difference between them and others, who are DEAD, for example, is that with no effort at all they can swallow their enormous egos, dismiss their ridiculous pride, banish their lingering bitterness, eliminate their spoiled streak, and DO something about their perceived problems so that their days aren't spent so pitifully. Solving their problems would require self examination. Solving their problems would require change. Change is difficult when your mantra is "This is just the way I am". They'd rather have others change--and pity, indulge and tolerate them. They'd rather get a whole lot of something for nothing. They think that help is a curse because they crave credit for bailing out others. God forbid they should say "Thank you" to anyone. Their problem is personal. Their problem is perspective. That IS a problem that unlimited financial and material resources cannot fix, so they sulk and attempt to make others miserable.
Yeah. They have a problem. They're human.
My bad.
If they want or need something, they can get it--easily. They have access to the best of things if they so desire. There are people at their beck and call. Problems? Yeah. Right. If THEY have problems, there's clearly no hope for the rest of us. We should all want their problems.
I was moved to stop shaking my head and judging them for their blatant ungratefulness, (and delusion) and look up the word "problem".
"Problem--any question or matter involving doubt, uncertainty, or difficulty; a question proposed for solution or discussion; difficult to train or guide; unruly; dealing with choices of action difficult either for an individual or for society at large."
Yep. They DO have a problem, I guess. Lots of them. Their problems aren't unique. They aren't any different than anyone else's. They've said and done things that have left them questioning and regretting their own impure motives. They've made unhealthy choices and have entertained bad habits. They've believed they were hurting someone else, or teaching someone else a lesson, and ended up hurting themselves. They've mistreated others. They failed to act when they should have. They've been arrogant and unkind. They've been selfish. They've been unfair. They've been envious. They've skewed their priorities. They've given expecting something in return. They've been hypocritical. They've enjoyed gossip. They've been unmerciful. They've been abusive. They've slandered others. They've used others. They've forfeited opportunities to excel. They've sabotaged opportunities they did have. They've kept secrets that have left them bearing internal shame. They're angry with themselves, and the only action they've embraced is to lash out at undeserving others. They demand attention. They criticize what they do not understand. They seek to break the spirits of those who are happy. They thrive on strife. They are not loyal to anyone. They hate being wrong, and losing. Those who are right or who win must be retaliated against. They don't trust the people who are genuine, but embrace those who are shady. They are extremely bigoted. They have no filter that deters them from saying hurtful, and even ignorant things. They want other to be beholden to them. They believe that the giving material things should ensure love, consent, and respect. They're lonely because they're adept at alienating people.
They're really not that different than anyone else. Everyone has had problems with self. The main difference between them and others, who are DEAD, for example, is that with no effort at all they can swallow their enormous egos, dismiss their ridiculous pride, banish their lingering bitterness, eliminate their spoiled streak, and DO something about their perceived problems so that their days aren't spent so pitifully. Solving their problems would require self examination. Solving their problems would require change. Change is difficult when your mantra is "This is just the way I am". They'd rather have others change--and pity, indulge and tolerate them. They'd rather get a whole lot of something for nothing. They think that help is a curse because they crave credit for bailing out others. God forbid they should say "Thank you" to anyone. Their problem is personal. Their problem is perspective. That IS a problem that unlimited financial and material resources cannot fix, so they sulk and attempt to make others miserable.
Yeah. They have a problem. They're human.
My bad.
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