TUESDAY THOUGHTS: Do YOUR Best

It's funny--not funny "ha ha" just odd-- when someone criticizes or throws shade at what others have done, and then commences to adopt, embellish, or attempt to replicate the very thing they've judged as wrong, unfair, inappropriate, or excessive. If it was Team Too Much when they did it yesterday, how does the same thing suddenly become Team Just Right when you do it today?

I guess it makes sense for someone to declare--up front--what they're not "trying" or "going" to do just in case things don't fare so well, or pale in comparison to what someone else has done.

Prefacing your actions with an apology, or a disclaimer speaks volumes. It signals that an internal conversation has taken place: “

Mine isn't like that!", 

"I didn't know it had to be that way!" 

"I thought I was only supposed to do this!", 

"I can't do it like they did!". 

Insecurity, envy, and unnecessary competition hinder potentially beneficial relationships, and positive endeavors, impact your performance, tarnish authenticity; diminish and cause others to reject, or ignore what you have to offer. 

Just do what you do, as best you can, and be who you are. No need to compare yourself, or your offering to someone or something else. No one is expecting you to be someone else. If they are, you have the authority and responsibility to protest-- or remove yourself.

If stepping up your game is what you need to do, go ahead, but do it because it will make you a better player. Shun unnecessary competition. Don't suddenly improve if your only aim is to injure someone else so that they can't, or don't want to play at all any longer.

Prefacing your actions with a swipe at someone else, no matter how slight, causes others to brace for the worst, lower their expectations, and even close their ears concerning what you have to offer. 

One ounce of shade thrown will backfire. Judging others unfairly is like rendering the best of yourself invisible, and then wondering why no one sees or hears what you have to share. It gives pettiness or hypocrisy the audience you could have had, and makes them the stars of your show. 

Know your strengths and weaknesses. Just be yourself. It's old advice, but it's still good.  


"Therefore, you have no excuse—every one of you who judges. For when you pass judgment on another person, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, practice the very same things." ~Romans 2:1