MONDAY THOUGHTS: THE SOUND OF SILENCE

I hear the new phase for ignoring someone, is “ghosting”.

 

I laughed the first time I heard it, and considered that there are times when “going ghost” is not only best, but a healthy, wise move. 

When you know the spirit that someone brings, it’s smart to protect yourself. 

What you can’t control, however, is the commentary of those who aren’t happy with your refusal to further tolerate their behavior.

It’s funny how infuriated people get when you decide you’ve had enough of their abuse, inconsideration, disrespect or negativity. 

It is telling when someone always, easily, or immediately thinks the worst of others— particularly those who have always been nothing but supportive, amenable, and kind to them. 

Those thoughts aren’t new. They’ve been nurtured; incubated, and always lingering just below the surface of a personal or working relationship.

They’ve been waiting to say, “I told you so.”

What IS this practice of badmouthing good people when they refuse to be compliant? 

What is this habit of throwing people under buses, and being mad at the people one has harmed? 

Why is it the FIRST resort, to smear the reputation of someone because they aren’t making you, or your agenda THEIR priority? 

Could it be because of a penchant for being:

ill-tempered, 

self-obsessed, 

opportunistic, 

demanding, 

impatient, 

bossy, 

critical, 

insecure, 

competitive, 

suspicious, 

possessive, 

catty, 

arrogant, and/or overbearing, that YOU are no longer tolerable, and are eroding the good you DO have to offer?

Living inside one’s own head, without considering facts, extenuating circumstances, respect for the rights of others, or grace, strips a person of the notion that others CAN be genuinely loyal.

Never hastily respond to others out of your own narrative or assumptions. 

Snarkiness  or anger are never endearing. 

If you persist in being unbearable, don’t expect to receive anything except shade, silence, or even pity in return. 

It is entirely possible that the conclusions you jumped to about the actions (or inaction) of others, was done so prematurely, ignorantly, and tainted with your OWN modes of operation or patterns of thinking. 

Drama-loving, nasty, manipulative, and entitlement bearing individuals are rarely, willingly invited or entertained by those to whom harmony and peace are not only mandatory, but not negotiable. 

An individual’s history of displaying a bad attitude, even in pleasant circumstances, creating division, and keeping up confusion, eventually becomes intolerant to even the nicest, most gracious, long suffering  people.

 

An inability to get along with others causes a person to ever anticipate when the proverbial shoe will drop. Continue projecting one’s own issues onto others, and it WILL drop.

#Godaintmeantforpeopletoownpeople 

#whenpeopleshowyouwhotheyarebelievethem

#preserveyourpeace 

#boundariesmatter