Sometimes people get offended because light is shed on their oblivion, laziness, or irresponsibility.
By daring to say what should have been said, or doing what should have already been done, you may be walking on shaky ground.
Whether it's an unbelievably unruly kid, an error, a misunderstanding, or a lingering mess that is threatening to morph into some kind of science project, it's amazing when people don't notice certain things, until someone else addresses them. Unfortunately, by the time some people speak up, they're fed up, furious, and void of all semblances of tact and diplomacy.
Timing is everything, but the trick is in figuring out just how long you're supposed to wait before you've had enough of one thing or another.
Whether it's an unbelievably unruly kid, an error, a misunderstanding, or a lingering mess that is threatening to morph into some kind of science project, it's amazing when people don't notice certain things, until someone else addresses them. Unfortunately, by the time some people speak up, they're fed up, furious, and void of all semblances of tact and diplomacy.
Timing is everything, but the trick is in figuring out just how long you're supposed to wait before you've had enough of one thing or another.
You've got to know that some people don't mind if things fall apart.
They don't mind mess, confusion, disarray, filth, strife, or disorganization.
The other trick, is recognizing that your tolerance for certain things may not be as long lasting as that of someone else.
What's a problem to you, may not be a problem to them. What's pressing to you, may be something for which they can stand.
Your mountain can be another person's molehill. When you consider these things, it removes the urge to complain or judge, and replaces it with quiet or frustrated action.
If they're not doing it (whatever IT is) for whatever reason, YOU do it--even if you don't think it's not your job, or that you should have to do it.
Face it. You don't really HAVE to do anything. You can fake unawareness, too, if you want. Unfortunately, failing to act may imply that you are equally as uncaring, trifling, or careless as the person who isn't bothered by what's going on around them that screams for their attention.
People may get angry when things are pointed out, but if they're not saying it, you say it.
If they're not doing it (whatever IT is) for whatever reason, YOU do it--even if you don't think it's not your job, or that you should have to do it.
Face it. You don't really HAVE to do anything. You can fake unawareness, too, if you want. Unfortunately, failing to act may imply that you are equally as uncaring, trifling, or careless as the person who isn't bothered by what's going on around them that screams for their attention.
People may get angry when things are pointed out, but if they're not saying it, you say it.
It may snap them out of whatever daze they're in, that keeps them from being attentive and proactive. It may even prompt them to ask you why the issue is so important to you. That will give you the chance to point out a few (or many) things, and the reasons why it's a big deal.
Be prepared if they simply don't care, but don't add to your stress by holding things in.
Keep your blood pressure at a normal rate.
No sense in boiling over things you can't do anything about.
Just make sure your stuff isn't raggedy.
If you're not going to address certain things for fear of offending someone, losing/damaging a friendship/relationship, or starting an argument, be prepared to roll up your sleeves.
If you're not going to address certain things for fear of offending someone, losing/damaging a friendship/relationship, or starting an argument, be prepared to roll up your sleeves.
If you think the relationship is strong enough to withstand your words, say something.
Even when people don't exactly like what's being said, you can bet they won't forget it.
On the other hand, don't be surprised if they have figured you out, and have you running on a "fed up meter".
They know you will cave way before they do, and may be laughing that, once again, their inaction got YOU to do THEIR work.
Maybe they're not lazy, after all.
Hmmm.
Maybe they're just smart.
Maybe they're not lazy, after all.
Hmmm.
Maybe they're just smart.
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