'Be anxious for nothing..." ~Philippians 4:6

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

COMPLAINTS

Some complaints are constructive and legitimate. They are catalysts to positive change. Other complaints are the unreasonable ramblings of spoiled, critical, entitled, miserable, unappreciative brats. They are catalysts to change as well. One has to know if one's complaining is helping, inspiring improvement, or merely compounding one's problems, and repelling others.

1.You can't complain about what you were given if it's precisely what you asked for, or you failed to be specific.
2. You can't complain about quality if what you obtained cost you little or nothing.
3. You can't complain about not having or missing your space, and then wonder why others stay our of your way.
4. You can't complain that no one talks to, or engages you if you have a habit of being abusive, abrasive and argumentative.
5. You can't complain about how tired or stiff you are if all you do is sit all day.
6. You can't complain about the opportunities that are offered to others if you have a history of being undependable, uncooperative, and divisive.
7. You can't complain about the kindness that is shown to others if you are rarely kind to anyone.
8. You can't complain that no one wants to play with you if you are an insufferable winner and a cantankerous loser.
9. You can't complain about the job that others are doing if you are not willing or able to do the job yourself.
10. You cannot complain about the job that others are doing if you are neither their supervisor nor employer.
11. You cannot complain about what you don't have to those who know you have more than adequate resources to obtain it.
12. You cannot complain about the admiration that others are shown when you lack the capacity to see the good in others.
13. You cannot complain about what another person prefers just because you don't like it.
14. You can't complain about the absence of those who used to help you if you have a history of taking advantage of their time, resources, and effort.
15. You can't complain about your exclusion from a thing when you did nothing but find fault and sow seeds of discord when you were included.
16. You cannot complain about the outcome when you offered no input.
17. You cannot complain about the "something" that others are doing when you are doing nothing.
18. You cannot complain about no longer being asked to participate if you never followed directions or cooperated when you were asked.
19. You cannot complain about not being trusted with confidential information if you are indiscreet and have a penchant for gossip.
20. You cannot complain that your opinions are not valued when you base them on speculation and lies, and they tactless.
21. You cannot complain about a person's current inappropriate behavior when your own past is replete with missteps.
22. You cannot complain about the division that exists when you have been the chief architect of it.
23. You cannot complain about the respect you do not receive if you don't feel that you are bound to respect others.
24. You cannot complain and grumble about EVERYTHING and wonder why no one volunteers to serve or help you.
25. You cannot complain about your lack, and expect the sympathy of those who are staring at your abundance.

The answer to many people's issues with themselves and others, is to adopt attitudes of appreciation and gratitude. After a while, constant unfounded complaining gets old and exhausting. What you won't be allowed to do is cause people to doubt themselves or their competence. You won't be allowed to break spirits. You won't be allowed to rip the joy out of every day, and subject others to a constant barrage of negativity. Something has to be right, good, praiseworthy, and acceptable. Why not find and embrace it?
Keep complaining; keep looking for things to be wrong, and there will be no one left to listen. Even the most patient, compassionate, and gracious people have limits concerning the toxicity they will subject themselves to.

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